THOUGHT 4 THE WEEK

16. Jan, 2021

QUESTION of the Week: How does arrogance and anger interplay?

Anger may be defined as a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility and is one trait of projected arrogance (see last weeks BLOG).

Anger dramatically weakens respect in the perpetrator and their perceived ability to make effective decisions. It manifests when someone is severely over-tired (no time to respond), has no argument (no knowledge to respond), and can only disagree, disagreeably.

Anger at the very least, makes someone appear to be unwilling, or more likely unable to communicate in a way that unites, edifies and contributes to a mutually beneficial outcome.

In a 2013 study Cognitive Psychologist Michael Greenstein of Framingham State University, Massachusetts noted that angry people are more susceptible to misinformation, and more likely to use false information to guide their decision-making and actions.

This study also revealed that information and confidence, traditionally in harmony, conflicted in angry people. As angry people feed more and more on misinformation, they become more confident in their misunderstanding.

Angry people confuse a heightened state of emotion for a heightened state of reason, problem solving and abstract thinking. They believe themselves to be alert, aware, firing on all cylinders, but act as if they were drunk.

Greenstein implied that anger-inhibited people are more at risk than the alcohol-inhibited. Whilst alcohol impairs memory, anger creates false memories. “A constellation of risks”, however, is how Greenstein refers to the implications of anger. Ignore these risks at the peril of your good relationships.

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5. Jan, 2021

Arrogance, all too often, is a trait in the eye of the beholder. 

When people accuse others of being arrogant, they do not consider there are several ‘types‘ of that condition. For the purpose of this paper, we shall identify twoactual and projected.

Actual Arrogance is readily observable. It is when someone intentionally looks down on someone they perceive as inferior in background, confidence, skill or knowledge. They take perverse pleasure in mocking or belittling them, especially in the company of others. In short, they are said to ‘crow‘.

Projected Arrogance is more common than actual arrogance and rarely accepted by the individual in possession of it. It manifestwhen someone projects their own failings on to others they perceive as possessing greater confidence, skills or knowledge than themselves. They use this defence tactic to justify their own feelings of insecurity. In short, they play a 'blame game'.

The following describes some of the major traits of those who project their own arrogance and is intended as a protection against it:

1. Projected Arrogance ~ contribute their own weaknesses as someone else‘s fault. They project their own fears, limiting beliefs, and toxic thinking seeking reassurance by blaming another

2. Projected Arrogance ~ whilst genuine humility speaks a quiet truth, projected arrogance manipulates people and situations to reinforce itself. Those who engage in gossip, angry outbursts, resentment and feelingof being offendeddisplay arrogance not humility

3. Projected Arrogance ~ behaves pridefully towards those they accuse of possessing it. Such pride manifests as defiance supposing it is in the right. It is unsympathetic, close-minded and vexatious

4. Projected Arrogance ~ attempts to mask its own insecurity. It strives to conceal doubt and feelings of inadequacy that can have a significant detrimental effect on one‘s purpose in life. Prolonged feelings of insecurity are clinically linked to depression, anxiety, paranoia, addiction and dependency

Truly Confident People Are Not Arrogant

They ...

  • are proactive and continue positively towards the end in mind
  • decide quickly and think win/win for all involved
  • listen to others seeking first to understand, then to be understood
  • do not take offence: when in disagreement, they do so agreeably
  • speak with quiet authority because they know what is real
  • celebrate the success and achievement of others
  • focus on their own strengths, working to the strengths of others

To explore this paper, or arrange your workshop email john@uetp.co.uk

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12. Dec, 2020
I just had to republish this poem discovered by Max Ehrmann in 1927: Desiderata is a poem of personal reflection: enjoy ...
 
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
 
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.
 
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
 
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
 
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.
 
Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.
 
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
 
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.
 
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
 
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
 
God Bless You & Merry Christmas
 
Cast the net on the right side of the ship, and ye shall find  [John 21:6]
7. Dec, 2020

The aim of our UETP BLOG is always to Unleash Everyone's True Potential. With this in mind we offer the following rather unusual BLOG.

Please read on ...

These past twelve months or so have been a period in human history that has brought the very worst and the very best out of people. 

Misinformed and inadequate political leadership, corrupt industrial profiteering, and corporate pirates, used fake science to deceive this world into mass hysteria, causing economies, businesses, families, and social freedom to collapse on an unprecedented global scale. 

Black Knights bamboozled the common man into fearing fear itself through manipulation, misinformation, selective statistics, and outright lies.

The reasons why will become evident in the near future. There are White Knights who will bring to book these deceitful tyrants. They are the honest lawyers, honest doctors, honest scientists, honest journalists, and yes, honest politicians who will secure justice in honour of individuals, families and businesses that have fallen along the way, through unscrupulous hearsay, rumour and downright fraud.

As we write this BLOG, a group of German lawyers are preparing a World Class-Action Against Governments citing the alleged pandemic as The Biggest Crime Against Humanity In History.

Assuming Youtube have not taken it down, see https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZpOzHHJmy7g&feature=youtu.be

We make no apology for re-publishing information that celebrates integrity, and honest, hard working people of every land, nation, colour and greed.

I recall Ridley Scott's 1982 film 'Blade Runner'. A dystopian view of a future orchestrated by those who would control everything, which seemed so Hollywood at the time. Watch it and see what such a future can hold.

We must never let a technocratic, greedy, power-grabbing, shameless, immoral, and yes, evil-minded minority become World Controllers.

All caring people, of every clime, must protect the future for their families and their families, families. Must stand and be counted as one voice of common decency. Must peacefully protest wherever and as often as we can, even in defiance of so-called emergency restrictions. And must make necessary changes to any system of Governmment that cripples civil liberty:

see https://www.makevotesmatter.org.uk/

We invite you to join all authentic organisations that stand for truth and justice for the good of mankind.

May God Bless Us Each And Every One.

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We pause our weekly BLOG until January and truly wish your family a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

 

26. Nov, 2020

Have you ever wondered how you can remain long-suffering, uncomplaining, patient, forbearing and accepting, when someone is being exceptionally difficult?

In the mid-20th century, pioneering Hungarian-Canadian Endocrinologist Dr Hans Selye (1907-1982) is credited with the expression, “the attitude of gratitude”.

Expressing gratitude means freely offering appreciation and thanks, especially when someone’s standards fall short of your own.

Expressing gratitude is one of the most emotionally stabilising practices for sustaining life-satisfaction.

Giving sincere thanks to people or for events dramatically improves mood by elevating feelings of optimism, joy, pleasure and enthusiasm.

The attitude of gratitude is also clinically proven to reduce bouts of depression ~ living too much in the past ~ and anxiety ~ living too much in the future ~ by welcoming each moment. Take a deep breath, hold for a moment, then release slowly and appreciate you are alive!

But, how do you accentuate the positive in the face of significant disagreement, even adversity?

Let’s go back a two thousand years and take a glimpse at what the ancient Roman and Greek Stoics believed.

Most of us fall foul of one or more of the following in-gratitude’s from time to time. If you succomb to any of them more than a couple times a month, choose ONE and focus on reversing it over the next 7-days by studying what the Stoic named in the bracket had to say about it.

Then choose the next one, then the next, until you have mastered your Attitude of Gratitude. I promise life will become more optimistic, more joyful, more pleasurable and more enthusiastic.

So, ask yourself:

  • DO I talk more than I listen (Zeno)?
  • DO I complain to other’s behind someone’s back (Marcus)?
  • DO I go along just to get along (Agrippinus)?
  • DO I neglect friendships (Seneca)?
  • DO I boast about my successes (Epictetus)?
  • DO I overindulge in eating or drinking (Musonius)?
  • DO I avoid difficult people or events (Seneca)?
  • DO I go on about business (Marcus)?
  • DO I shun people who disagree with me (Seneca)?
  • DO I conceal my true beliefs (Arius Didymus)?
  • DO I identify with the things I own or the clothes I wear (Cato)?
  • DO I put off what I could complete today (Seneca)?
  • DO I sleep longer than I should (Marcus)?
  • DO I waste time dreaming I am going to live for ever (all)?

The most important thing for sustaining good habits over bad ones, is to stop thinking so much about what you want to say and pay more attention to those around you

Remember, you cannot always control what someone says or does, but you can always control your responses.

Musonius Rufus said, “in too many circumstances, we do not deal with our affairs in accordance with correct assumptions, but rather we follow thoughtless habit.” (underline added)

And Marcus Aurelius said, “learn to ask of all actions, Why are they doing that?’ Starting with your own.” (underline added)

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