What Is Regret & Is It Good For You?
Regret manifests through feelings of repentance ("If only I had not done ...") or feelings of remorse ("If only I had done ...") and is the result of a disagreeable 'act' or 'omission'.
Whilst regretted action tends to be more emotionally intense at the time, regretted omission tends to linger. longer
A common end-of-life regret is not having had the courage to pursue a particular direction having given in to circumstances or the will of others. Whereas such capitulation (lose/win) is 'sometimes' appropriate for the good of another, a mutually beneficial outcome (win/win) satisfies all involved and maybe more often accomplished through open, non-judgemental discussion, by listening more intently than talking. And if all parties cannot win, don't be afraid to say, "No deal".
If the above is true, and it is, why does recent research reveal a whopping 70% of Brit's remain unfulfilled doing what they do for a living?
Could this be because they just don't talk things through with those who matter most in their lives? Do you?
Other common end-of-life regrets include: having worked just too many hours, and/or not having expressed one’s feelings more frequently, and/or not having stayed in touch with former close friendships, and/or not having had the maturity to accept things that cannot be changed ~ ill-health or the loss of a loved one as examples.
Whilst a common male regret is ‘missing out on family time’, most women regret ‘missing out on together time’ with their partner.
The Antidote ~ accepting happiness is an inside-out emotion, and not a side effect of living a particular lifestyle actually diminishes feelings of regret until they evaporate altogether and you truly accept you for who you really are.
Beyond A Wholesome Discipline, Be Gentle With Yourself!
Complicated Is Easy! Simple Is Hard!