THOUGHT 4 THE WEEK

28. Jan, 2022

When exploring Public Victory last week, we referred to Socratic questioning as part of your self-assessment of Do You Seek 1st To Understand Then to Be Understood? meaning do you sincerely listen to others to truly understand their point of view.

Seeking 1st to Understand is one of the most neglected habits of the western world. People rarely want to listen to and discuss the evidence of a situation. Instead, they argue from the perspective of their own attitudes, beliefs, and opinions viz. feelings.

Think about this generalization for a moment. If political elections, industrial discords, or family points of view were argued (see below for definitions) solely on the things that can be measured (the evidence), surely the outcomes would be to more people’s advantage. And, if someone could discover and agree with those facts for themselves, why would they argue?

Let us examine two definitions of argument, one positive and one negative and you’ll see what I mean. You choose, which would be the better posture for someone to adopt with you:

  • 1st definition: argue meaning to encourage someone to discover and agree for themselves their own circumstances and that they want to do something to change it
  • 2nd definition: argue meaning to exchange or express diverging or opposing points of views

Quick Resume - Socrates (c.470-399BC) was a Greek scholar, teacher, and philosopher who some consider the precursor of stoicism. Credited as a founder of Western philosophy, he is largely known through posthumous accounts by his students Plato and Xenophon. Later the school of Stoics, a Hellenistic philosophy founded by Zeno of Citium in the early 3rd century BC, established stoicism as the philosophy of emotional wellbeing (eudemonic).

Socratic Questioning - involves a disciplined and thoughtful dialogue between two or more people and is widely used in teaching and counseling to allow an individual to expose and unravel deeply held values and beliefs that frame and support what they think and speak. In short, Socratic question encourages the other person to challenge their own understanding of the world, the universe, and everything. In this manner, a favourable argument is satisfied, and an antagonistic argument is avoided (see above).

Example of Favourable (Socratic) & Antagonistic Questioning:

Favourable (Socratic)                        Antagonistic

What is your attitude toward …?           Why do you think that?

Do you have any …?                             What do you have?

Why did you …?                                    Should you have …?

What do you mean by …?                     I don’t understand what you mean?

What would be the outcome of …?       Surely you wouldn’t want that to happen?

Is that what you want?                          You can’t be serious?

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20. Jan, 2022

RECAP: Possibility Thinking (PT) is our willingness to see beyond any perceived obstacles before us. It is centered on our desires, beliefs, and expectations; in a word, faith, and includes reflecting on who we are, what we have done with our lives so far, and what we want to achieve in the future.

If you want to improve the quality of your remaining life, read on …

Last week, you rated yourself against three key questions that determine where you stand with your Private Victory meaning: how effective are you right now at organising and completing each daily task, or project before you. Take a moment to review your score and possibility thinking from last week and remember until you are winning your Private Victory, you can never truly contribute to your Public Victory! [contact info@uetp.co.uk to discuss your personal PT plan, or to arrange your workshop]

Public Victory

This week you will rate yourself against key questions 4-6 that determine where you stand with your Public Victory meaning: how effective are you right now at contributing to other people’s Private Victories?

On a scale of 1=rarely; 2=occasionally; 3=mostly; 4=always, rate yourself against the following 3-questions:

4) Do I Think Win/Win or No Deal? meaning do you maintain a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutually beneficial outcomes in all human interactions, or agree to disagree, agreeably.

5) Do I Seek 1st to Understand, Then to Be Understood? meaning do you stop thinking about what you want to say, to sincerely listen and truly comprehend another person’s perspective or paradigm. Then, add to mutual understanding through discovery (*Socratic) questioning.

6) Do I Synergise? meaning do you seek to combine or coordinate the contributions of two or more agents to produce an outcome greater than the sum of their individual actions.

Use last week's scoring process to assess your progress with your Public Victory and determine your strategy for moving forward.

Bonus Point - Sharpen the Saw

WARNING: Be very, very, very careful of who and what you consent to in life. No one can make you feel inadequate without your consent.

To simultaneously maintain both Private and Public Victories is not a one-time battle and requires persistent and consistent possibility thinking to improve and grow. It means maintaining, through ongoing study and reflection, a balanced programme for self-renewal in the four key life areas of physical (exercise), emotional (social), mental (positivity), and spiritual (self-worth) requiring daily, quality mindfulness.

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*To be reviewed

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13. Jan, 2022

Last week you reviewed where you are right now, in your own 1,000-months of mortality. This week we commence a review of what you want for the remainder of your life.

Possibility Thinking (PT)

One definition of PT is the willingness to see possibilities everywhere rather than limitations.

PT is about desire, belief, and expectation; in a word, faith. It’s about reflecting on who you truly are, what you have done with your life so far, and what you want to do with the remainder of it.

To begin, and irrespective of age, honestly answer the following question, “If I had my time over again, would I choose to do the same things with my life?” If you answer: “Not Really”, read on …

Perhaps more than at any other time in history, people are needed who are willing to engage with and inspire others to become the best they can become. And, during that process, become the best you can be, too.

Problems vs Solutions

Ask yourself, how many times do you typically return to the same problem? Once, twice, five, or more times? Revisiting the same problem over and over displays one of two things: either you did not fully comprehend the real nature of the problem the first time, or, you are using these revisits in the hope the problem will miraculously go away by itself.

Capacity To Act

It may take a little time to adjust, but everyone truly has the capacity to focus on possibilities within any and every problem; to quickly move past was isn’t working. You too can learn to discover and agree a problem, only once, and donate your entire personal contribution to discover and agree all possible solutions to resolve it. Then, choose the best solution for that moment in your life.

Private Victory & Public Victory

Over this week and next, we shall explore 6-questions, plus one bonus point. Today, you will assess your Private Victory meaning are you truly in control of what you do? Next week, we shall look at your Public Victory meaning are you contributing to everyone’s success, not just seeking your own?

NB: Until you win your Private Victory, you can never contribute to Public Victory!

On a scale of 1=rarely; 2=occasionally; 3=mostly; 4=always, rate yourself against the following 3-questions:

1)    How Proactive Am I? meaning do you anticipate each situation (beneficial or consequential) and take regular, planned, and appropriate action to improve its outcome rather than merely waiting for something to happen

2)    Do I Begin with the End In Mind? meaning do you start every day, task, or project with a clear vision of your desired outcome ~ physically, intellectually, spiritually, & emotionally ~ then continue to flex your proactive muscles to make things happen

3)    Do I Put 1st Thing’s 1st? meaning do you place matters of significance or value (importance) ahead of other things

Scores

  • >5 - there is much to reflect upon if you truly want the remainder of your 1,000-months to change for the better. Choose twelve self-development books starting with Stephen R. Covey’s The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People – email if you need a list - and read/audio-play one each month over the next year. Review your above answers every quarter
  • 6-8 - think deeper about your desires, beliefs, and expectations. Read relevant books and articles
  • 9-11 - you are pursuing a beneficial course, but need to strive to get better at what you personally do. Read more relevant books and articles
  • 12 - keep doing what you’re doing! You’re probably reading the good stuff anyway

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NEXT WEEK, YOUR PUBLIC VICTORY

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6. Jan, 2022

HAPPY NEW YEAR

The current average mortality in the UK is 81.2-years, which sounds a long time and leads the US by 3-years per capita. But when you multiply those years by months, weeks or days, you end up with about 1000-months; or 4,000-weeks; or 30,000-days.

How long does your life seem now?

Rather than settling for a home-to-work, work-to-home existence as life ticks by, this paper is designed to help you reflect on what you want out of your life: your true purpose.

Take a look at the following five statements:

  • Comfort Zone – If you keep doing the same as you’ve always done, you’ll only get what you’ve always got! All change for the better is supposed to be uncomfortable! ASK YOURSELF: Am I an ‘If only’ person? Or am I a ‘Next time’ person?
  • TGIFriday - Is it your goal just to make it through the week? Don’t get me wrong, week-ends can be a chance to do something with the family for more than an hour or two Monday through Friday; and a chance to meet up with old friends. ASK YOURSELF: Am I happy with the quality of my life?
  • Priorities – Forbes states that up to 70% of all employees hate what they do for a living! If you’re not focusing your life on what’s important to you, it’s time to make some changes. ASK YOURSELF: What are my 3 top things to achieve over the next 3-year?
  • Holidays – Seth Godin said, “Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don’t need to escape from.”ASK YOURSELF: How can I do what I really love to do, and get paid for it?
  • Righteous Envy – If you find yourself feeling envious of someone you respect, there are three changes to consider making in your life:1) Decide whether they truly have the life-style you want 2) Focus on what they do and how they go about doing it 3) Read at least one relevant book - or several articles – each and every month for at least the next year. ASK YOURSELF: Do I have an on-going learning plan?

In Summary: Assuming you invested 250 months growing up and getting educated, you typically have around 500 months working to pay the bills and financially prepare for your 250-months in retirement. You need to decide whether those 500 months are best spent working for someone else, or doing what you really want to do.

Next week we shall pursue some possibility thinking to help you pull together your new future.

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16. Dec, 2021

All at Unleash Everyone's True Potential wish our students, readers and their families a wonderful Christmas season.

Following an intense year of ill-decision and uncertainty promoted by governments who should know better, we look forward to the return to true freedom and democracy.

Let us remind ourselves of the evocative words spoken by War-time British Prime Minister Winston Spencer Churchill, in June 1940:

We shall defend our island, whatever the cost may be, we shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender.

This BLOG will resume w/c 3rd January, 2022.

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