See Yourself As Others See You
O’ wad some pow’r the giftie gi’e us
To see oursel’s as ithers see us.
It wad frae mony a blunder free us
An’ foolish notion
Rebbie Burns (1759-1796)
Simply put, the poet is saying, if we had a way of seeing ourselves through another’s eyes, we could seriously reduce the number of personality clashes, and by so doing, increase happiness and income within families, and careers.
Everyone is made up of the same ‘stuff’; yet somehow human behaviour (HOW), motivation (WHY), and character (INTEGRITY) seem chaotic, unpredictable, and complicated.
How many times, for instance, have you lost it when someone didn’t respond the way you wanted?
Ask yourself the question, is it truly possible I can learn and apply how to recognise the different human behaviours and accommodate each to increase the probability of a mutually beneficial, win/win relationship?
The answer is an emphatic, Yes!
For example, what do you think the outcome would be if you turned on Mr/Ms Charming with someone who naturally wants to get to the point?
Or, what about talking shop too soon with someone who is into the feely-feely of a relationship?
Whether conscious of it or not, your success in this world is directly related to your ability to give others what THEY want at the commencement of a new relationship viz. to make them feel good about being with you.
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Complicated IS Easy! Simple IS Hard!